Art of detachment

 hello everyone!!

hope all of you are happy and healthy <3

today's topic is about detachment....why is it sometimes necessary to detach from people? is it not always good to stay together in groups?...actually no...for years i thought the same...stay in group and you are fine...as a woman it is safer...physically..well most of the time..but mentally? not necessarily...not most of the time...

Sometimes detachment from people you are closest to is also very important for your own mental peace...it is good for the person before you as well...after an age of 15 (i believe) you should start setting boundaries with everyone...even with your parents because if you don't they start to feel a constant urge to control your life...to control the decisions you are supposed to make..parents always want you to not make mistakes...but i believe as a teen you should make mistakes and learn to come out of it (please don't take it as you can keep making mistakes...that's not the point)...parents start feeling as if they always need to be there for you though they don't realise it...when you detach, keep to yourself more and tell them what they NEED to know and not what they WANT to know...they start realising that you've become mature and capable enough to take care of yourself...most of all they start realising that you don't need their constant advice in every aspect and decision of your life...This is what i think should be your first step towards independence...privacy is not given over night...you earn it..through behavioural changes...what teens usually do is...after a fight happens in the house you think "from today i won't speak to them and will never tell them anything" well nothing is changing in that because it is just instant anger and nothing else...the next day they buy you something or you just forget about it and everything goes back to normal...you never are really grown in their eyes unless they feel like you do not need them anymore...well yes that will build sadness in them but it is something that will happen someday or the other...and you might feel guilty for not opening up totally like before but again you need to move on in life and make your own decisions...you should make friends...of course but you should always know boundaries...imagine you made a best friend or a close friend...or maybe just a friend and you end up in a big fight with them and they know your secrets...now they go around telling your secrets to everyone...

i don't even have a best friend...unless you are really really sure about them..you know their nature....their behaviour really really well...or do not care about others knowing your personal things don't share anything with anyone..nobody is your own in this world other than you...you know as they say "the less you cling..the more you flow"

thank you <3

27-06-2026